Valentine’s Day 2013, I stood with other clergy at the Salt Lake County Clerk’s office supporting the LGBT couples who were waiting in line for a marriage license. Everyone was moved to tears, even the county clerks that were saying no to the requests. It was heartbreaking to see the couples being denied to marry the one they loved.
Fast forward 10 months, Dec. 21, 2013, Amendment 3 was ruled unconstitutional and hundreds of gay couples went to the county clerk’s office, and this time with tears of joy were given a marriage license.
I was giddy as the news portrayed couples saying their vows and pronounced married in the State of Utah. I called my son to share with him the exciting news; we were both stunned like so many others that this was really happening in Utah.
I went down to the Salt Lake County clerk’s office the next Monday to help officiate weddings and be a part of the joyous moment. As a mom, it was thrilling to see the love, the joy in everyone’s faces. Then to see those same faces again and again on the news at night, what a miracle and this will not stop; I am so proud of the couples that brought the case to court and all those that made this event happen.
As a mom, I look forward to my son finding his soul companion and husband, I wish him the same love and excitement that I witnessed on Monday. I want my children to be happy and have all the rights that my husband and I have, and more. My son is an incredible, amazing man that happens to be gay, my daughter is an incredible amazing women and mother and happens to be straight, my son has blue eyes and my daughter has brown, they did not pick their sexual orientation anymore then they picked the color of their eyes. I am proud of both of them. I want them both to be the best them they can be, to be happy and to make this world a better place to live. Not because one is straight or one is gay, but because they are my children whom I adore and love completely.
In Utah, and soon all states, people will be married, not gay weddings or straight weddings, but people will celebrate weddings and celebrate the love along with the couples. This will not deteriorate the family structure but will strengthen the family. Families will learn to love their children as their children – not gay or straight – just their children.
God’s righteous people will begin to understand that the LGBT and allies are not asking the churches or their members to change their beliefs and that by standing next to the LGBT community they are not going down the path leading to hell. But that they are saying all people deserve and expect the same civil rights in this country and this state, no exceptions.
Mother Theresa said, ““Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.” “Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own home. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor . . . Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting.”
Let’s stop the hatred, the abuse, and the killings, in the name of God. I am pretty sure God would appreciate it; as a parent, sister, and friend, I know I would.
Congratulations to all the couples that had a very special 2013 Christmas present: marriage to your loving partner. And to all couples, I wish you all the love and joy being in love brings you.
A proud mom!