“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive.” —Anais Nin
Since July 2012, I have had the pleasure of writing A Mom’s View. It was an idea that Michael and Seth were gracious enough to grant me to bring to fruition. Since that time I have met many great friends. I have been able to sharpen my writing skills with the help of friends willing to edit and give feedback.
I was invited to attend Gay Writes, a free writing group sponsored by SLCC’s Community Writing Center, where I got to hear amazing people read their poetry, essays, novels; and where they listened to my stories and gave me valuable feedback. You have had the pleasure of reading some of the group’s work these last few months. As a result of great feedback, we’re excited to announce the newest column to QSaltLake — Gay Writes, this column will be replacing A Mom’s View effective April 2014.
My involvement in the LGBT community has been a joy and heartache for me. I feel joy to be around the most loving and accepting people I know. I have never felt or needed to wear a mask in this precious community. I love the diversity, the color, and the trust each of you gives me.
My heart aches to see the discrimination, the fear and hate that is directed at the LGBT community. It was incredible to be around the energy during those 17 days of marriage in December. The cheers as each couple came out of the County Clerk office with their license to be married. The clergy waiting enthusiastically to say the words, “You may kiss your husband or wife.”
My heart aches with legislation in session, the vile bills that are being proposed to stop the LGBT from marriage equality and basic human decencies. I am appalled that on our state tax return one legislator wants a box to mark for our money to support the legal fees to overturn marriage equality. Where is the box to stop this insane legal battle that will ultimately be defeated? Every man and women has a right in this country to have a voice and be treated fairly and equally.
During the Sundance Film Festival I got a chance to see the movie “Difrent” about a 14-year-old girl that was being charged with murdering her to-be husband in Ethiopia. The man kidnapped the girl on her way home from school. She was beaten and raped. This was the custom in the villages: If a man took a woman and bedded her, she was then to be his wife. The man left his rifle in the hut to see about some commotion outside. The girl grabbed the rifle and ran. The, man and his friends circled her with their horses and as the man walked toward her, she shot him. The girl did not have rights in the village. Those in power wanted her dead and the father to pay the son’s father restitution for his son’s death.
I forget that in America not long ago, women did not have rights of equality; I am proud and appreciative to Mark Lawrence and all that stood with him to take marriage equality to the judicial system. I will forever be grateful to Mark and the three couples for taking the risk of retribution and financial burden to be the voice for so many.
“Friends are the family you choose.” —Jess C. Scott
I have grown significantly in my understanding of the LGBT community, I, have learned that we’re the same in most ways: We struggle with our spiritual beliefs, our families, our children, our jobs, our partners, our money and our own beliefs about ourselves. We want to be accepted for us; for who we are behind the masks or labels we wear.
I want to thank you sincerely, for letting me be a part of this wonderful community. I hope that I have brought some insight through the articles I have written. I have decided to cut back on my writing, and bring A Mom’s View to a close. I will still be a part of the community, at different functions and celebrations. I’m focusing on my business, clients, on-line classes and professional speaking to business associations and non-profits about creating powerful, healthy, happier relationships and communication.
As with all life, this is not an ending but a beginning to a new relationship. As A Mom’s View closes a new column opens. Each month a member of Gay Writes will have a chance to speak to you. They’re incredible writers of poetry, personal essays, short fiction, and articles. You will find out more about Gay Writes at: http://www.slcc.edu/cwc/diversecity-writing-series.aspx#gaywrites
“A true friend sees you in all aspects of life; fun, sad, dancing, crying, angry, happy, and loves you even more.” Leesa Myers
Thank you for being my friend.